Am I good enough?
Atelophobia: the fear of imperfection, of not being good enough.
From the outside, I reckon I look like I have my life together. Follow me on Instagram and you’ll see nothing but smiles and happiness and health. But surely by now, everyone is aware that this is the highlight reel, no one has a life quite like the one they reflect on social media.
My current issue appears to be whether I’m good enough for the life that I’ve been reflecting. Due to the influx in the need for perfection, I’ve been left wondering how I can constantly reflect the smiles that I’m posting so regularly to everyone else when I’m anything but when behind my own closed door.
It seems that being happy is now no longer enough. That we need to prove our happiness and success to those around us and share with as many people as possible that we are doing well. The 21st century and increase in use of social media has meant there is also an increase in competition. The want to be better than the person next to you and make sure they know about it in the process. And as a result of this, the idea of women supporting women has turned into a dog eat dog society in which no one is coming out on top.
So how do we prove to ourselves and others that we are good enough? Simple answer, we don’t. We don’t have to prove to anyone that we deserve what we have. Or that we’re happy all of the time, because we aren’t. And that’s ok. Luckily, the recognition of mental health issues is growing and we are more aware now than we have ever been that it’s ok to not be ok.
What you can do:
Contentment before progression
In yogic principles, contentment comes before progression. It is important to be happy with what we have before striving for something else. Perfection is unachievable but happiness isn’t. Recognise what you have every single day and don’t be afraid to give yourself a pat on the back when you do something great.
Posting on social media
Post a non-perfect picture on social media. I dare you. The people who love you don’t need filters. And if it isn’t those people you’re worried about, who is it? Show that it’s ok not to be ok.
Liking other people’s pictures
Be a cheerleader for someone else. If you see someone with a great picture, like it. Don’t make comparisons to your own life, show that you’re happy for them and they should be happy too.
Remember, you are the only person you have to be good enough for.
Keep those yogi faces happy :)