Be a warrior
So I have this tiny issue with jealousy. I’d like to call it being territorial. Knowing what is mine and making sure no one else thinks they can have it. Apparently when you’re in a relationship and the thing you’re being territorial over is your boyfriend then that’s called jealousy. I’m still not convinced...
Apologies for not oozing HYF vibes today. I’m having to face up to the fact that I have a problem and to be honest it’s pretty difficult to recognize weakness in yourself sometimes. Especially with one that doesn’t lend itself to being hidden, a weakness that latches itself onto others around you until you’ve let everyone know that you have a problem. My lack of control over it is exceptional. I fear imaginary threats and sometimes all that helps is having my hand held through the tough parts. I’ve forced myself to take a good hard look at who I am recently, and why I’m allowing all of my positivity and strength and self love to be eaten alive by the green eyed monster living inside my brain. And what have I found?
I’m scared. It’s not jealousy, it’s fear. Fear of not being as good as the other person, fear of being abandoned, fear of not being loved.
It’s the fear that I am not enough.
I know I’m not alone in this thought. Perhaps it’s not jealousy that eats you up but there will be something or someone out there that makes you feel like you’re not enough. You’ll doubt who you are and everything you have achieved because of one person. Unfortunately, that one person can sometimes be an Instagram stranger. Even worse- that person could be you. So what do we do? How do we overcome the fear? I’ve picked my favourite three quotes that I aim to live by. I have one saved to the screen of my phone, one to my laptop background and one in my purse as a constant reminder that I am stronger than the fear.
It’s ok to fall, as long as you get back up.
A reminder that we are allowed to fail. We can’t be the best possible version of ourselves every day. We are going to be unsuccessful and weak sometimes but the important thing is how we respond to that failure. So if I get that sinking feeling that I am not enough, if it makes me feel down and if I get angry within myself (and at others) as a result… well it’s about dusting myself off, realizing my mistakes and apologizing for forgetting about what is truly important.
2. Winners focus on winning, losers focus on winners.
Am I a loser? Hell no. So why am I focusing on the winners? You know who I mean. The one who always seems to be that little bit better looking or funnier or fitter or smarter than you.
The only success you need to celebrate are the ones that made you better than a previous you. That’s your only competition in life. Be happy with the progress and your journey and being happy.
3. I am enough.
No explanation needed. You are enough. Be happy with who you are and those around you will see it too. Act like you’re not enough and people will start treating you that way.
Be strong and fight your inner demons Yogis. You are strong, you are fabulous and you are enough. Maintain your Happy Yogi Face lovely people. :)