Rock bottom is a beautiful start
“If you wait for the perfect moment, the perfect moment will pass you by”
When is that “perfect time” we always seem to be waiting for before we do the things we long to do? The time that never really arrives?
Tomorrow, next week… never?
When it’s less busy at work, when I lose weight, when I have someone with me…
Excuses that keep you wishing and stop you doing.
I have a not-so-secret fear of death. It horrifies me. The idea that one day, we will no longer be living, and everyone around us will carry on and have the chances that we no longer get. The fact is, the only thing we can be really sure of is the now. And whilst I hate to sound like a cliché, it seems to make sense that we should live each day as if it is our last, because one day, we won’t have the opportunities available to us that are obtainable right now. And before you think these opportunities have already passed you by, let me try to convince you otherwise.
It seems a common fear we all have is that of change. We don’t want to ruffle the feathers of a seemingly satisfactory life just in case it leads to a more disappointing one. Take a second and picture what would make you really happy. Now think about what it is that is stopping you from being there right now. I imagine most people can finish this sentence- “Things will be better when…” When you get the better job, when you take that holiday, when you meet Mr Right. Wrong. It is disillusioned to think that your happiness is always just one step away. Especially when you hold the key to your happiness right now if you stop waiting for that “perfect time.”
I can accept the reality of most situations. We have reasons that we aren’t ‘doing’ what we would in a perfect world. But maybe it is time to revisit your expectations and realise that our goals and dreams aren’t an ‘all or nothing’ situation. With most of us considering anything less than perfect and not reachable within the immediate future just not worth it, we find ourselves ending up with the ‘nothing’ rather than the ‘all’. The fact is, as much as it might seem to be that others have their perfect moment presented to them on a silver platter this is of course not the reality. Hard work and dedication is what turns your dream into reality. And all we have to do is START.
How do you start?
What do you really want? What does it look like?
Make a list of what you would like to do and what needs to be done to get there.
2. Do something that gets you closer to the goal. No matter how small. Just get STARTED.
It could be as simple as going to the supermarket to fill your fridge with the healthy food that will get you closer to the body you want. Don’t have time for that? Write a shopping list of the things you will be buying and leave it by the door ready to buy tomorrow. No matter how small, push yourself to do something and make the most of right now.
3. Get support
Tell others your plans and seek help to get you that little bit closer to the goal every week. Even if it is just a nudge in the right path. By making yourself accountable by sharing your goals with others, you’re more likely to encourage yourself past any internal or external resistance.
4. Never fear failure
Don’t worry about not reaching the goal immediately. This isn’t failure. Failure is when you stop and give up the fight. Keep making the small steps forward and eventually you will reach the success you set out for.
Life isn’t about waiting for the right time to come, it’s all about doing the right things in the time that is given to you.
Remember Yogis… “If you are waiting for the right time, it’s now”
Don’t forget your Happy Yogi Face :)