Fall in love with yourself <3
As the most romantic day of the year approaches, it is difficult not to think about the ones we love and those that love us back. Unfortunately, not always do the two interlink, and Valentine's day can often leave us feeling unwanted and lonely. Time for change.
I’ve become one of the many new founded ‘Beliebers’ (a fan of Justin Bieber for those cool enough to not be familiar with that expression) and, whilst driving home to one of my favourites… “Love Yourself” I got to thinking about how many of us actually do “Love ourselves”
Unfortunately, Bieber’s new hit is far from being a cheer to take time for ourselves, instead being a more PG friendly version of telling someone you don’t like them anymore and that they better not think for a second that you have any feelings left for them.
Why all the hate?
Perhaps the culture we live in has led us to believe that we aren’t allowed to love ourselves anymore. It becomes difficult to determine the difference between confidence and arrogance, between having pride in yourself and being considered narcissistic. But what happens when the balances tips more, and we become so far away from loving ourselves, that we start to hate ourselves. Believe me, I’m speaking from experience. I’ve spent the last two days hating my thighs. Crying over my thighs. Not talking to people because of my thighs.
Time for that culture change…
It must be time to start a cheer for really loving ourselves. To spend some time considering how great we actually are. And not feel bad for recognising it. If it is a truth universally recognised that we must spend at least one day a year in February dedicated to those who love us, then what stops us spending a day dedicated to loving ourselves? And to that matter, why only one day?
After all, you attract what you are. If you show love then you will receive love in return.
So, the question remains, how to move ourselves from hating to loving? As always, the steps need to be small and achievable or else they won’t stick. Please join me in ensuring we spend as many days as possible loving and not hating ourselves (thighs included).
1. Dedicate time
You can’t love yourself properly unless you are committed to doing so. It can be as little as a 15 minute face mask, a 30 minute bath with bubbles and candles or waking 5 minutes early to complete a round of sun salutations. Just make sure there is time.
2. Compliment others
As I said before, you attract what you are. Be the smiling face. If you have something nice to say then say it! You never know, you could stop that person hating themselves for the day. Before you know it, you’ll have more smiles aimed at you and more compliments paid back. Here’s the hardest part- accept those compliments. Say thank you and believe what they tell you as truth.
3. Look in the mirror
When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror and liked what you saw? When was the last time you looked at yourself in a mirror without trying to change what looked back? Accept that you are beautiful inside and out. Look in the mirror and be happy. List at least three things you are proud of in yourself, and don’t feel bad about recognising your beauty. Make peace with your mirror and watch the reflection change.
4. Keep healthy
Healthy body, healthy mind, healthy spirit. The only way to truly love yourself is to feel good about yourself. So eat well, drink water and exercise regularly and the happy hormones will come flooding out.
5. Do more of what makes you happy
My motto. It’s changed my life. If it doesn’t make you happy, don’t do it. And recognise that you deserve to do the things that make you happy. Spend time loving what you do and doing what you love. You need to learn to appreciate every minute of the time we have on this earth and we definitely don’t have time for hate.
Love yourself this Valentine’s Day… as well as every other day. Self-love is the very first romance.
And as always, remember your happy yogi face. :)